I was never one of those kids who was afraid of “monsters” or horror movies. I could generally watch movies like Friday the 13th or A Nightmare on Elm Street and would still be able to get to sleep without incident. I admit I had no business watching these movies at the young age I did, but that’s not really the point. Those kinds of movies didn’t really scare me. What I do remember being terrified of was the TV show Unsolved Mysteries, and hearing Robert Stack’s raspy voice narrating each of those eerie stories. Again, I was probably way too young to be watching Unsolved Mysteries…and again, that’s not really the point. What I’m getting at is, that as a kid, we all had something that scared us. For me it was the belief, after regretfully watching an episode of Unsolved Mysteries, that a violent murderer could somehow coincidentally make his way into my room and is now hiding out under my bed! For me, those were the monsters under my bed that I was scared of. And I think we can all relate to being afraid of something when we were young.
But being afraid as a kid, of those monsters under the bed, was normal. it was just a part of growing up. Your imagination can play terirble tricks on you and you are able to dream up all kinds of horrifying scenario’s and what if‘s. What if that murderer really is under my bed? It could happen! Of all the billions of beds in the world, that psychotic murderer that Robert Stack was talking about, really could end up in MY house and under MY bed! Our young minds can turn these wild thoughts and make them very real. But we grow up and grow out of that…right?
Ya, I think so….at least sort of. I don’t believe in monster or murderers hiding out under my bed anymore. Or at the very least, I understand that the odds of a murderer hiding out under my bed is about 1 in 100 billion. So that doesn’t keep me up anymore. And as we get older, reality and logic kicks in and those kinds of thoughts become a silly distant memory of our childhood. We are able to look back and laugh about it. I shake my head and ask myself, why did you even watch Unsolved Mysteries before going to bed, dummy?
Being afraid of these unlikely, even non-existent made up things is all a part of growing up. But what about now that we are adults? Our minds are no longer busy with imagining up ridiculous things hiding out under our beds, but there are definitely still things we are fearful of. It is no longer the things under our bed that scare us, instead I think different kinds of fears kick in. But these fears don’t resemble anything close to the monsters we remember in movies, or the threat of murderers from TV shows, that were at one time so real to us. Now, as much wiser and logical adults, our fears MUST be legitimate and very real, right? Besides, we are adults and we must know better. But are these fears really real?
The fear of failure and rejection.
The fear of being laughed at.
And the fear of what others will think or say about us.
Yes, maybe. Things will sometimes not go according to plan, and we will fail. And no matter what happens, there will always be people who will laugh or take joy in others misfortunes. And it seems that everyone has an opinion about what should and should’t be done…or what is ‘right’ for you. Unfortunately, that’s just the way things go sometimes.
We eventually figured out that there really was no reason to be so fearful of those make belief things as a kid. We realize that we were in fact afraid of things entirely imagined up in our own minds. Those weren’t real. And our fears were nowhere near as bad as we thought. So why not learn from those same lessons we learnt as a kid, and take the same approach as adults. Failing, being laughed at, and worrying about others people opinions? Is this reality? Even if that stuff did unfortunately happen…what is the worse that could come of it? It definitely can’t be any worse than having a monster snatch our ankles and being pulled down into the dark and dusty abyss under our bed.
So why not learn from our experiences as a kid? What if it could be just as natural and easy to get over the fears we now have as adults?
The things we feared as a kid are a mere afterthought now. Those monsters under the bed are a laughable memory. Those fears were once so real but we overcame them. So can’t the fear of failure, the fear of being laughed at, and the fear of what others think of us also be an afterthought? I think so. We can absolutely look back one day and wonder why we ever let these thoughts stop us from going after the things that we really want. And if we can move past these fears, we will once again look back and laugh too, and ask ourselves why we ever cared so much in the first place. Why did we ever let these fears effect us so much?
Or even better, we learn that these fears never actually existed in reality to begin with. We learn that once again it was the beliefs and thoughts that we created in our own minds that were the real thing to be afraid of. It was never failing. It was never being laughed at. And it was never what other people thought. It was always just our own thoughts of how terrible it would be if these scenarios and “adult” what if‘s were to actually play out. Just like it was with those imagined monsters under our bed that paralyzed us way back then, we got over those thoughts. We now know it was silly to be afraid of non-existent things. We were able to overcome them, even forget them, and now we can reflect back and smile. So why not do the same with whatever fears we have today? We can make these fears a laughable memory of the past too.
Thanks for reading.